Today I had the privilege of officiating a wedding ceremony after the couple’s wedding ceremony. That’s right! The reasoning behind this is one of the most beautiful reasons.
At Harbor Chase Memory Care, where I conduct a weekly Shabbat service, there is a husband who attends my service with his wife who is a resident. I blogged about this couple when I first met them because their love for each other is so obvious. They hold hands and still look into each other’s eyes with love and friendship. The resident’s husband visits every afternoon and I don’t think he has ever missed a day.
One of the couple’s sons was getting married and I was asked a few months ago if I would perform a mini wedding ceremony at Harbor Chase because the groom’s mother is not able to go. I was so affected by this request, so amazed. Of course I agreed to do it! As time progressed the groom and I spoke about what he wanted and how I would assist. He sent me a write up of how they met and some of their background regarding careers, and more.
The couple got married last night in Miami and this afternoon we had the mini ceremony surrounded by family and close friends. While standing under a chupah, I read an appropriate prayer for their recent marriage; recited the Y’varech’cha (blessing for the wonderful couple), spoke about what the groom emailed to me. I also spoke about how I believe that this couple found their beshert, that they are soul-mates. I felt this friendship between them. I am confident that this couple will have the marriage that the groom’s parents have.
What left such an impression on me was the fact that this couple wanted to make sure that their simcha, happy occasion included the groom’s Mother. A new dress was bought for her; a corsage; and her hair was cut. There was a photographer there. We had a private room for this very special occasion.
I was asked to sing the Mother’s favorite song, Dayenu. I found a way to tie it into the ceremony most appropriately. Everyone sang and the groom’s Mother was smiling from ear to ear.
We recited the blessing over the wine and did motzei, the blessing over bread for the challah.
We cried tears of joy and laughed. What a beautiful hour!
Everything was well thought out and planned, taking place without a glitch.